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Let your guard down - Steps to becoming more social

I decided I want to be more social, make more friends and be less ego-centric. I notice that I don't feel good when if I

posted by Luca Merlini on 3/12/2008 6:27 pm | COMMENTS (2)
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Perfectly simple! I didn't realize you could talk to people you didn't know until I started traveling away from the big city! What an adventure to talk to interesting (and uninteresting!) people. Thanks , Luca

posted by Heartman on 3/15/2008 10:47 pm

I was in New York in August. Big City, lots of people. Had to confront half my fears to get there. Took it one breath at a time. When I got there I decided to let go of a lot. Just said to myself, Belgium doesn't exist anymore, thats the past, and I said no to Belgian nationality as well. And I felt freeer.

And one evening, I was rather hungry, with the time difference and so. And I decided, why not go to the foodcart around the corner and buy some food. I did, and I came back and thought. I'd rather just go and sit on a bank and eat and talk. And the people at the entrance where talking about climate change, and I thought this intressting, I want to sit here and listen and talk. I didn't. Later I wondered, what stopped me, it was in the middle of the night, sounded intresting, there was no problem whit it.

But I noticed to be more open, more social, just willing to talk, more allowing myself to just-be-me. It felt so refreshing, being rather shy and as closed as a oyster at times. And then I remembered from time gone by, that I chose to be more open, take the risk, and how much more pleasant life had become then.

For the moment I'm more like an oyster again. Closing my shells in defence. But in defence of what ? Of past troubles ? Of never-going-to-happen-irrational-future-fears ? Ever since I went to New York, and came back and decided to take the holiday as a transformational event, I've noticed that I don't like my old way of acting anymore... Its like feeling locked up, not being able to strech your arms, your legs.

I'd like to thank you for the word ego-centric. Althought I know it, I didn't get that maybe that is what or how i have been behaving. Thank you for the insight. (maybe this was abit long)

Floris

posted by dagdromer on 1/ 7/2009 2:10 pm

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